Never Be Fooled by The 3 Lies Men Tell Women (Part Two)

March 5, 2020

A new U.K. study shows men are twice as likely as women to consider themselves good at lying and getting away with it. In this study, 194 people were quizzed - with half of the participants being men and the other half women. 

They were asked a series of questions including how good they were at deceiving others, how many lies they had told in the past 24 hours, and the type of lies they told. The study found a major link between lying and gender. 

Men were twice as likely to consider themselves expert liars. 

This is important because you need to know how to watch out for lying guys, so you don't put yourself in a situation to be manipulated or used in a relationship. That's why I'm going to cover 3 lies that men tell women so you can protect yourself.

Let’s get into the lies men tell women.

1. “We don’t have to have sex. We can just hang out and talk.” 

Lies men tell women

Now, this is one of the oldest tricks in the book. Often, you’ll go on a first or second date with a guy and he’ll try to move the date back to his place or yours. This could mean inviting you to come over for a glass of wine at his house after dinner. Or when he drops you off at your home, h will say something like, “Should I come inside and we can watch a movie?” 

Maybe you say, “I don’t know if that’s a good idea. I’d like to take things slow.” And then he hits you with the lie, “We don’t have to do anything you don’t want to. We can just cuddle.” 

Hint: he doesn’t want to just cuddle. 

There are a couple of tactics that men use to get women to either come over or invite him over to their place.  

The first is the simplest and most common tactic that men use. Leading you with higher energy. Typically, when you’re interacting with people, one person has more energy and is on the leading edge. They guide the conversation and with it, the focus. Whoever controls the focus, controls the interaction.

So he may just act more energized and excited than you. If you’re a people pleaser, he may try to make you feel bad in some way like you’re ruining the moment. He might say, “ only live once. We’re having such a great time…C’mon, trust me.

Another tactic men use is to create a compelling experience for you at his house. He may have something delicious that he’d like to cook for you. Or his condo may have a special view of the city that you can rarely see. Or maybe he’s got a book that he wants to give to you.

Some men I know put a lot of thought on how they can make their home a “destination” for women. They might have dozens of compelling reasons for why you need to visit their house at night. 

Now maybe you’re saying, “But he’s a really nice guy!” or “I’ve known him for years.” That’s great. But I promise you, even nice guys want to sleep with you. Trust me here, he doesn’t just plan on staying for only a little bit even if he says that. And he certainly isn’t planning on cuddling you for hours and talking about your feelings (even if he might tempt you with that offer). 

Even if you know him well and are sure he would leave it at cuddling without throwing a tantrum, you don’t want to lead him on and most importantly, you don’t want to put yourself in a situation where you feel uncomfortable declining his sexual advances.  

Men - even nice guys - will act like horny, single-minded teenagers who just want to get you in bed.

The best move you can make here is to politely decline his offer by giving him a kiss and saying, “Sounds nice. But I can’t tonight. I had an amazing time. Goodnight.” And leave. This will help keep the mystery alive and fuel his desire to see you more. 

He will realize he has to put in the effort to get to know you and be a better guy to get you in bed. During the time he spends getting to know you, he will develop feelings for you. This is how you hook a guy long before you have sex with him.

Now I know that may sound a bit “old school” and I fully support a woman’s right to sexual freedom. If you want to be single, by all means, go and do your thing. But if you’re looking for a long-term commitment, waiting at least a month to sleep with a guy is how you can get to know him more and prevent yourself from getting tricked by players or immature boys.

You see, men are well aware of the “three date rule” in which women will wait until the third date to sleep with them. So if you DON’T sleep with him by the third date, two things might happen: he’ll get fed up and disappear or he’ll be intrigued by YOU and your personality.

He’ll think, “Who is this woman? She’s different.” And if he disappears, you'll know his plan all along was to sleep with you and nothing more and you’ll have dodged a bullet. 

To make it easier to avoid ending up at either of your places, choose dates that take place in public. And always get to the date with your own transportation. This will ensure he won’t have to end up at your place and need to use the bathroom or something else. And giving yourself more time to get to know each other on a deeper emotional level will help him to think of you as just another sexual escapade.

You’ll leave him wanting more if you say goodbye to him without letting him go inside your house. Remember, it’s always best to indulge men in the chase and keep the mystery alive as long as possible. 

2.  “I’ve never met anyone like you before.” 

why men lie

This line usually falls off the lips of a charming, handsome guy on your first or second date before you’ve slept with him.

And of course, you’re right to be flattered. It’s a nice thing to hear. 

But unfortunately, this is a typical lie men say to get women to sleep with them. Other common phrases that fall into this category are, “I wish I met you years ago”, “You’re the woman of my dreams” or jokingly, “Wow, let’s just get married now.”

Remember, we are talking about a guy saying these lines within the first or second date BEFORE you’ve slept with him. 

He is hitting you with this overload of affection for a reason. He thinks you’re attractive and wants to get you in bed. 

Maybe you’re thinking, “Well, I am great! Maybe he actually feels this way.” 

Yes, there is certainly a possibility he might feel that way about you in a month or two or three down the line. But after the first or second date, he still doesn’t know you. How can he be a good judge on if you’re his soulmate or so different from other women if he doesn’t really know you as a person? 

Men use charming lines like these to break down the emotional walls you’ve put up to guard your heart. It’s a way for him to role play. Even if it’s a joke, your body can feel the same emotions as if it were real. He wants you to feel safe with him and vulnerable. He knows it’s one of the best ways to get you into bed, especially if he is a player type and tried this tactic again and again. 

If a man uses any of these lines with you when you first meet, he is telling you what he thinks you want to hear and trying to manipulate your feelings to get you to sleep with him. So, do not take him seriously. Just brush his comments off and if he’s going crazy with them, feel free to call him out. 

Ask him playfully with a big smile, “Do these lines usually work for you?” He might be surprised to hear you say this. But he will love that you are smart and know what he’s trying to do. This will make him see you differently than other women and want to get to know you even more. 

If he likes you the way he claims, he will have no problem waiting to sleep with you and putting in the effort to learn more about you. If he doesn’t, he was lying to you. Either way, you’re better off knowing this information than being in the dark. 

3. “I don’t like talking about the future. Let’s live in the moment.”

understanding why men lie

If the guy you’re dating says this to you, you should definitely see it as a red flag

Why? Well, most men, especially high-quality guys, know what they want regarding their love life and have dreams they want to fulfill. 

If he doesn’t want to talk to you about the future, it’s for a reason. 

It could be because he doesn’t imagine a future with you in it or because he doesn’t want to define the relationship. 

By saying “let’s live in the moment,” he buys himself time to have his cake and eat it too. He gets to hang out with you, no strings attached and no promises made. He might even go so far as telling you, “What’s wrong with what we have now? It’s so perfect.” Again, this is a way men manipulate women to settle. You should be able to tell your partner exactly the kind of relationship you want with him in the future - and if he loves you, he should want to make your dreams a reality. 

If he has a different idea of what his future looks like, then you guys can work on that as a couple and see if you can compromise. But if he doesn’t want to talk about the future at all? It’s because he doesn’t plan on giving you more than you have right now. 

Avoiding talking about the future is what immature men do to stay with a woman for however long he sees fit. If he told you, “Actually, I only want to date you for a few months because you’re cool - but I really plan on dumping you once summer comes around.” Then obviously you’d break up with him right then and there. So instead of making you any promises, he keeps things vague on purpose.

Of course, you should want to know where your relationship is going. It’s normal to want to make plans with the person you love or to want to have a relationship title with the person you have been dating for a few months. 

Not only does this clarity put you at ease, but it allows you to know you’re on the same page as far as your goals. If you want to get married and he doesn’t or if you want to have kids in the next year and he doesn’t, those are some big deal-breakers. But if he pleads the fifth, you’re not going to see the deal breakers...and he’s going to get to keep having all the benefits of you as his girlfriend without having to do any of the work that a long-term commitment requires.

It’s normal for you to want to know where your relationship stands. If he sees a future with you, he’ll let you know. You want the man you’re with to be upfront about his feelings, make plans with you, and discuss how you can make your goals and dreams a reality as partners. 

If he doesn’t have any idea of what he wants, it might be time for you to take a step back when it comes to the relationship. You don’t want to be with him for years on end to spring on you that he’s looking for something else. 

If he’s keeping you in the dark about the future, it’s possibly because he doesn’t see a future with you. Now, if this is the case, it might be time to reevaluate your relationship and let him know you’re not going to settle. You deserve to be with someone who loves you and wants to build a life with you. If he doesn’t want to, you are better off finding someone else who treats you the way you deserve to be treated. 

In Conclusion 

common lies men tell

Now that you know 3 more lies men tell women, you can use this insight to know if the man you’re dating has been manipulating you or if he is a high-quality man who wants to get to know you more and sees a future with you by his side. 

If you want to take this to the next level, and learn advanced tactics for not only knowing when guys are lying to you, but also understanding the male mind so much that you can basically read their mind and know what they're saying about you behind your back, then you should take a look at our brand-new program called Inside the Male Mind. 

It gives you a step-by-step approach to attract high-quality men and comes with exclusive interviews of real men who reveal why and how men say and do certain things. 

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