5 Lies Men Tell Women

February 26, 2020

It’s Friday night. You and your girlfriends are out at a nice restaurant, splitting appetizers and swapping stories about the men in your lives. 

You usually start with, “I just don’t get it. Why does he act like this? If he has a problem, he should just tell me!” 

Your friends are equally confused about why the man they are dating acts the way he does. After all, the two genders seem to have entirely different ways of thinking and acting for just about everything. 

Luckily, you and your friends don’t have to spend any more time analyzing what’s going on behind the curtain of a man’s mind. As an expert dating coach for over a decade, I’m going to reveal how men think and what they lie about. 

This powerful information is going to show you the type of man you are dating and if he is worth keeping around.  Let’s get into it. 

1. “It’s not about sex. I really want to get to know you.” 

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This is one of the most common lies men tell women. Perhaps you’ve heard it yourself over and over.

It can come disguised in many different forms, such as “Let’s go back to my place for a drink. We don’t have to do anything you don’t want to.” Or “Of course, I don’t mind taking things slow. I want us to have a connection before things get heated.”

No matter how nice of a guy he is – if he is dating you, he wants to sleep with you.

Unlike women, men are used to being constantly rejected. So, if he is dating an attractive woman who wants to wait, he is most likely willing to play the long game if it means he can sleep with her later down the line. 

A man could go months without sleeping with her if that is what she wants. Some men even go so far as to befriend a woman for years in hopes that she will one day magically change her mind and want to be with him. 

Don’t get me wrong. Some men DO want to get to know you. But that doesn’t mean it’s not about sleeping with you… 

For a woman, a man who isn’t the best in bed isn’t always a deal-breaker. But for a man, it can be. Even if you are a great person and have an incredible connection if he doesn’t like sleeping with you, he isn’t going to want to continue dating you. 

I know this is harsh to hear. But for men, being sexually compatible is one of the most important factors when it comes to choosing a woman they want to be with. 

Since men are thinking first and foremost about sleeping with you, you need to wait as long as possible before sleeping with them.

Look, I know it’s 2019, and you’re allowed to sleep with whoever you want. I fully support a woman’s right to sexual freedom – and if you want to solely sleep with a guy and aren’t looking for a relationship - that’s great! 

However, if you really like this guy and your objective is to be in a long-term relationship with him, wait as long as you can to sleep with him. 

Indulge him in this chase to get you...don’t let it end after the second date. 

If he spends two to three months getting to know you as a person, not just someone he likes seeing naked, he’ll begin to realize how much he really likes you. This will make him enjoy the experience with you even more when you do sleep together and make it more likely for him to stick around after you decide to sleep with him. 

2. “I don’t believe in labels.” 

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Have you been dating a guy for months or maybe even years who refuses to call you his girlfriend? If his reason is that he doesn’t believe in labels, he is most certainly lying.

Men use this lie as an excuse to get away with bad behavior. As a successful, ambitious woman, you should not put up with a man who doesn’t want to commit to you after you’ve been seeing him for several months. 

If he doesn’t want to commit to you after a few months, he won’t do it later down the line either. And he definitely won’t consider marrying you.

It’s not that men don’t believe in labels - it’s that this man doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. And you know what? If he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you then you shouldn’t want to be in one with him either.

You deserve to be with a man who loves you, respects you, and wants to give you the world. And the only way you’re going to end up with a high-quality man is if you love yourself enough to let go of someone who doesn’t treat you the way you deserve. 

3. “I am going to leave her for you.” 

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First of all, a high-quality man would never cheat on his girlfriend or spouse. So you should already know the man you are seeing isn’t the type of guy you’d want to settle down with.

After all, if he is cheating WITH you, what’s going to stop him from cheating on you in the future? That being said - rarely will a married man or a man with a long-term partner leave her for you.

It’s not that he doesn’t love you - maybe he does. It’s that leaving behind a spouse and a life they created for another person can be complicated. Maybe he has kids with that person or a mortgage or really loves his wife but was looking for something fresh and new with you.

Whatever the case may be, you should never be someone’s second choice. Don’t believe him if he tells you he needs to get his business in order and in a year or two from now you can be in a house of your own and starting a new life together. 

You should never be waiting on hold for anybody - let alone a taken man - to live the life you want. You are in full control of how you spend your time and the future you want to create for yourself. 

Choose to be with someone who wants to be with you from the beginning. And let go of a man who is making you false promises while having his cake and eating it too. 

4. “I love you.” 

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Now, let me start by saying that many men do mean it when they tell you, “I love you.” So, there is a chance that if the man you are dating says he loves you, he truly means it. What I want to help you discover is how to know a man is lying if he says, “I love you.” Here are a few ways to find out:

His actions don’t match up with his words. If he says he loves you, but he isn’t making you a priority, he isn’t paying any attention to your feelings, and he isn’t introducing you to any of his friends or family –  he may just be saying he loves you as a way to keep sleeping with you. 

If he continually lies to you, cheats on you, and abuses you emotionally or physically, he doesn’t love you. And you should never be with a man who treats you this way - even if YOU do love him. 

Remember, you always have to love yourself first. Loving yourself requires letting go of toxic people who make you feel unworthy. You deserve a high-quality man who says they love you and shows you with actions every day. 

It’s hard for women to imagine a man can say “I love you” and not mean it without feeling racked with guilt. Not many women would do this, so they can’t imagine a man to go as far as saying “I love you” to solely manipulate their feelings for his gain. 

But I am here to tell you that some men will tell a woman he loves her as a way of getting her to sleep with him. It’s manipulative and can be very painful for the woman who experiences this. That’s why you must pay attention to his actions and not just his words before you decide to sleep with him.

A man who loves you will be honest, reliable, want to spend time with, listen to you, and show the world you are his. 

Good men are out there. And if he shows you how he feels about you with his actions in addition to the three magic words, you’ll know it’s the real thing. 

5. “Sorry, I haven’t been around. I’ve been really busy…” 

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You went on a few dates, things seemed to be going great, and you’ve slept together more than a handful of times. Then...he seems to fall off the map. He went from talking to you every day to texting you once every few days.

When you try to make plans, he’s too busy or he agrees to the plan then cancels. Finally, you ask him what the hell is going on - and he is evasive. He assures you, “Sorry, I have just been busy with work or moving…” or some other vague thing he thinks you can’t argue with because you don’t know enough details.

Sure, maybe he does have a demanding job, but you are a strong, ambitious woman - you also have sh*t going on and can still make time for him. So, you can accept this “I’m busy” excuse all of one time. But if he makes a habit of putting you on the back burner, it’s because he’s not that interested in you. 

This is confusing for women because they think, “Well, if he doesn’t like me...why does he still want to meet up with me every now and then and not cut off contact altogether?” You have to remember - men are different from women.

Men keep women around to see them occasionally so they can keep sleeping with them. He may like you and even like hanging out with you. But he has already decided he doesn’t want a relationship with you and will only see you IN BETWEEN seeing other women.

If you let this keep going on, he will eventually fade away and stop talking to you altogether. If you are dating a man who is using the “Sorry, I’ve been really busy” excuse on you more than once, it’s time to stop letting him string you along – and take control of the situation. 

You might be asking yourself, “How can I get him to like me more?” I want to remind you – this is not the type of man you want to keep dating or be in a relationship with. This man has been manipulating your feelings – and you deserve better. 

You can gain control of the situation by telling him, “Look, I get it, you’re busy and that’s fine. So, I am. I think it would be best if we stop seeing each other. I am looking for someone who is serious about me and wants to make me a priority. That’s not you. And that’s okay. Have a great life.” 

He might respond with a surprised reaction that you had the nerve to stand up for yourself for him treating you poorly. Don’t let him make you feel bad. You are a strong woman who deserves better – and you will get it by letting go of the guy who doesn’t treat you right and continuing to look for someone who will. 

In Conclusion 

Now that you know the 5 lies men tell women, you can use this knowledge to know if the man in your life has been manipulating you for his advantage or if he is a high-quality man with good intentions. 

I know that if you are reading this article you are a motivated, powerful woman who wants a loving, healthy, beautiful relationship. 

Maybe you’re sitting here thinking, “Great men don’t exist” or “I’m never going to find someone who is deeply in love with me.” That’s simply not true. If you listen to my guidance and put in the work it takes to find someone special, you can attract the right kind of man into your life at any time. I really believe you can have this kind of relationship and love in your life. And I want you to know that I will be here with you through every step of the way. 

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